Have a wonderful New Thanksgiving! Happy Christmas! Merry Valentine’s Day! Wait, what time of year is this? I feel so lost… I’m so confused. I can’t seem to get a grasp on what’s happening around me, much less the weather: 40 degrees and rainy one day. 65 and sunny the next. Then, a blizzard slams our area. Oofda!
An unexpected blizzard gave me time to once again, come back to a blog that has gone neglected. In absence of me taking the time to write, life has maintained a furiously fast pace that has left me twisted in knots like a pretzel.
The following conversations aren’t word for word but a gist of my constant confusion:
Me: Okay girls here are your lunches for today.
Them: We don’t have school today.
Me: Wait. What? Oh… ok, since it’s cancelled, you can save the lunches for tomorrow.
Them: School wasn’t cancelled, it was a scheduled day off.
Me: A scheduled day off? Why? What for?
Them: Teachers need to prepare for conferences.
Me: What? We just had conferences last week.
Them: No we didn’t. We had them in October, it’s February.
Me: Really? Ugh.. When are they scheduled for?
Them: You need to schedule them.
Me: Okay. I should get right on that…
Me: What do you need for show and tell?
My 5-year-old daughter: Umm… I’m not sure I think we get to bring a picture.
Me: A picture of what?
My 5-year-old daughter: I want to bring a picture of my sister.
Me: Okie dokie….. (after dropping my daughters off at school, I find a paper that says, “Please have your child count out 100 items to celebrate the 100th day of school and have them bring those items for their show and tell”).. whoops!..
Me: Okay girls, time to get ready. Here are your shoes for basketball. Here are your goggles for swimming and here are your slippers for dance class.
My 7-year-old daughter: I’m not in basketball.
My 5-year-old: I don’t need goggles for dance class.
My 3-year-old: Daddy, today is Wednesday. We have kid’s club at church.
Me: Mrs. Wifey, I made a budget for Christmas.
Mrs. Wifey: Perfect. That will be great for next year.
Me: Why not this year?
Mrs. Wifey: This year’s Christmas has passed.
Oofda!…I’m a little behind…in my state of confusions, I think I may need to put those thoughts of relaxing in a hammock to rest…
If there is a parenting life lesson that has been challenging me over the past few months, it would be planning… Laugh all you want but planning and I have never worked well together. I have tried planning before but usually within five minutes, my plans changed.
If anything, not planning has become easier as my daughters grow older…No bottles to bring or food to mash when we go on adventures. No back-breaking diaper bags to haul around worrying about if I brought enough diapers. No strollers to use as a bumper car to push my way through crowded marketplaces. The fear of stained clothes eventually gave way to “meh, you can change when we get home.” Extra clothes on vacations? Please, just turn you underwear backwards then inside out and then backwards again and your set for four days (just kidding, my girls have enough underwear to wear on our trips…but you get the point).
I will admit that I let myself live through an absent-minded world most days…. (What was I saying again?…Wait..What did you say? I can’t remember) and occasionally look for reminders to get by for the day. Unfortunately, not planning doesn’t work out well in a marriage or with three kids. As the based on “almost” true conversations suggests, it is imperative that I plan.
My daughters’ schooling will only get busier with tougher assignments and activities will for sure continue with an increase in time commitment. As my daughters get older, their different personalities are emerging more than ever, meaning those activities might possibly be divided three different ways.
I’m going back to school, my wife was promoted at work and we have dreams that won’t become a reality unless… planning becomes a priority…
I have skated by my whole life without planning and while I have learned a lot, I feel like I have missed out on a lot as well by not planning.
Ultimately, the LORD will decide the success or failure of plans. Proverbs 16:9 (ESV) says, “The heart of the man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.” Proverbs 19:21 (ESV) says, “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand.”
I do not want to be old and gray still dreaming about the what-if’s. I do not want to be left standing wondering life never happened while I still grew older I suppose it’s time to grow up a little more, and take planning a little more seriously.
(Funny side note, as if the LORD knew what I needed…all three of my daughters received a calendar in the mail… My wife received a calendar in the mail. I received a calendar from my work… hmm..I feel like there may be a connection here)